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Peace and tranquility

peace and tranquility

ON PEACE AND TRANQUILITY

For most of my life I have been searching for ‘peace’. I have tried to find ways to avoid conflicts – in both my personal and professional lives – but I failed, and failed, and failed again.

Then I stumbled upon a book by Will Durant, written in 1926, called The Story of Philosophy.

In this book, I have found some history, some context and some wisdom that helped me understand the circumstances in which human desires for peace, and the reasons why we pursue it, generally land the human race in paths of seeking pleasure, that are usually self-destructive.

The root, according to the recorded history of philosophy, theology and culture, starts from the journey that Alexander the Great undertook from Greece to Asia in his quest for conquering the world and spreading Greek religion, culture and trade into the orient, mostly all countries located in Asia, the Middle East and North Africa.

Funnily, when I tried to find the history of humanity’s pursuit for peace and tranquillity, I landed up mostly in eras which were post-conflict that saw humans trying to make sense of life, even when they were in a state of enslavement, such as when Greek and Roman empires fell and the ways people suffered under the rule of tyrants and cruel armies.

I always found superstitious rituals unnecessary and time wasting. However, after going through what happened when Alexander tried to push Greek thought into Asia, a reverse flood of oriental rituals and cults entered Europe, and some Europeans somehow started to find peace and tranquillity in the oriental practices of religion and ritual.

Quoting some very powerful lines by different thinkers may shed some light on the subject of searching for peace.

As Schopenhauer deemed it useless for the individual will to fight the universal will, so the Stoics argued that philosophical indifference was the only reasonable attitude to a life in which the struggle for existence is unfairly doomed to inevitable defeat. If victory is quite impossible it should be scorned. The secret of peace is not to make an achievement equal to our desires, but to lower our desires to the level of our achievements.

Seneca (65AD) said, “If what you have seems insufficient to you, then though you may possess the world, you will yet be miserable”.

Books after books, in the form of poetry, prose, essays, and theories upon theories lie buried in the shelves of libraries and archives on the subject of searching for peace and tranquillity. I have just realized how foolish it is to waste readers’ time on throwing some light on this over-written, and widely discussed topic, regarding both its visible and invisible aspects.

However, the simple law of attraction confirms that if you desire and pray for well-deserved peace and pleasure, it will come to you. Better choose smartly, otherwise you will land up accumulating debts and physical and habitual abnormalities, instead of peace.

Keep working and praying for them, and someday you will find them touching your soul as occasionally as one feels the whiff of fresh fragranced air that comes from the earth after the rainfall has stopped. One small happiness and moment of peace equals millions of tears shed and pains suffered in this mysterious yet fruitful existence. What an unfair proportion.

By John Kingz

Past, present and future

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PAST PRESENT AND FUTURE

What is the right balance between nurturing past relations and assets vs. focus on present and future-related pursuits?

This question comes to my mind every day.

I move between the present and past extremely frequently and always try to stay loyal to it, while simultaneously doing maximum justice to present responsibilities. But inside myself I harbor a deep guilt which keeps raising its head inside my psychic ocean. It tells me I must care more for my past relations and find out where the old friends and relatives with whom I spent some of the most beautiful parts of life are, and what can I do for them.

There are some characters who have passed away, and I just hold on to the beauty of the time spent with them, as well as the high and lows I enjoyed with them in my soul and spirit .

I feel that keeping a good balance between the past and present is vital for a smooth inner being and a balanced personality.

What do I mean by inner being?

Let me dig a little here. I mean that sometimes I have a multiple persona — whoever John Kingz (JKZ) in the past, is not the same JKZ at present. To me, this logically means that there is more than one being in any individual. However a bridge does exist upon which both past and present JKZ both travel on. What I mean by this refers to the smoothness of the inner being as the strength of the connection between the past and current self. The smoother the bridge, the more coherent and stronger the character of the person.

I will always remember the three lines of my grandfather:

“If wealth is lost, nothing is lost.”

“If health is lost, something is lost.”

“If character is lost, everything is lost.”

When I now link this to the past-and present-self concept, I feel the above three lines mean that the two tangible items (wealth and health) are less significant while the invisible, intangible attribute of character carries far more weight-age. Therefore I feel the link between past and present selves is the strength of character required to have a good balance, where past relations and the character feel the same closeness to the past as to the present and future. Once that is established, the soul, spirit and happiness levels lift inside the present self, which then acquires the right values and leadership traits to not only do justice to the past and present, but also for the uneven and uncertain roads of the future.

Thus, love your past and loved ones from their. Keep the fragrance of friendship alive, no matter how those characters from the past treat you. Sometimes you aren’t treated well, or at least not as well as you expect, but still — persevere on the road of one-way care and one-way love. You will deposit values that you may not even realise, but one day the only saving in your mortal and after-life bank are those gestures of love and care that will stand by you, while everything else — wealth, health, beauty, etc. — will all be consigned to the dustbin of eternity.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

My 56th Birthday. I am surprised to be still alive and kicking!

I am surprised at how, and why, an ordinary person such as myself has been gifted with such a wonderful set of people, starting with my mother, wife, sons and daughters, uncle, brothers and sisters.

Then there are my respected and revered friends, spread across the globe, who love and care for me unconditionally.

My business partners and colleagues, who so passionately care not only for my business life to be successful, but that my health and well being are also in check, not to be lost in the pursuit of material and financial prosperity. 

I don’t know why, how, when, who or what put all that beauty and love in place for me to savor and enjoy. 

Why then am I so restless and hungry for more?

So vigorous in my search for a higher purpose?

So demanding and conditional — what am I searching for?

The truth is, I don’t know.

What I do know is that I don’t really know what I’m searching for. 

If I can’t answer this, then, by extension, I do not know what end outcome I really desire.

Happiness, peace, money, social status, fame, more high and mighty friends, stronger family unity and harmony, better health…?

If I don’t know the answers to these questions… 

Should I seek out more high and mighty friends? 

Or should I live my life without setting any specific goals, only responding and reacting as well as I can to whatever comes in my daily and weekly life?

I know that I am not prepared well enough, to set high goals or to live my life on a day-to-day basis. 

Then what should I do? The only answers I get from my heart are:

Love back all the good people

Love back all the work that is done, and is to do

Love back all the events that have happened, and will happen 

Love back all the failures and pass on their lessons to others

Love back all the small achievements and keep the fruits well-distributed

Love back all the materials that make life happy and share them fairly

Love back all the places I have gone to, and am yet to see

Love back all the love there is, with full heart and soul

Certainly, I do not want to be a bigger receiver than giver

Maybe this is a very lofty goal for a small being such as myself, but there is no harm trying.

Let me at least forget my little worries, and appreciate the fulfillment of receiving the care and love of giving more than I receive. 

May I open up and fearlessly make the best of my day today.

 

 

Winners & Losers

Sometimes I think we are all winners, all the time. If we win, we do so by our fortune and effort. All is winning — we just need to understand the meaning in an apparent loss.
Sometimes we lose, sometimes we don’t.
These are two sides of the same coin, which are in reality the same thing.
It really depends on the person, how he or she responds to either of the two scenarios. At the end of day, we have to leave both winnings and losses on the same table, and leave this world empty-handed.
Then, why is there such ado about who, or what, wins? Why do we mourn the losses?
After all, someone’s loss is someone else’s gain. Why can’t we just be happy, for our loss is another’s gain?
Giving thought to this subject raised the following questions:

Why lose sleep if we lose?
Why are we so sad about these losses?
Why are we so happy about winning?
Why must we show off our winnings?
Why must we boast about them?
Why do we always try to one-up on friends, family and competition?

The only answers I get regarding all the above questions lie in more questions:
How we define the race we want to live in?
How do we define the benefits that others and I reap of the winning?